Vijay (Jay) Sandher, BACP
Vijay (Jay) Sandher helps people manage depression, anxiety, stress and the fallout of trauma and loss.
About Vijay
Vijay (Jay) Sandher helps people manage depression, anxiety, stress and the fallout of trauma and loss. He speaks English and Punjabi and works with adults who are seeking practical, steady support. Jay emphasises small steps and clear goals in early sessions so people feel less overwhelmed and more able to cope day to day.
He listens with a calm, patient style that puts people at ease. Sessions focus on what matters most right now.
Background and approach
Jay believes clients hold knowledge about their lives and uses that as a starting point for change. Jay draws on Attachment-Based, Client-Centred and Trauma-Focused methods. That means he pays attention to relationship patterns, follows a person’s concerns, and addresses distress tied to difficult events.
He adapts his approach to fit each person rather than using a one-size-fits-all plan. Over seven years he has supported people dealing with addictions, grief, chronic illness, caregiver stress, domestic violence, and a wide range of personality and attachment concerns. His work also covers challenges linked to autism, dissociation, and control or commitment issues.
Sessions are offered online by video, phone, live chat or text messaging. Jay uses brief, direct language and practical steps so people can try new ways of coping between appointments. He aims to help clients build steadier routines and clearer thinking about what they want from life.
Registration
| Body | Registration number | Expires |
|---|---|---|
| BACP | 409997 | November 2026 |
Registration details are as listed on the counsellor's public profile. You can check any number with the registering body.
Sessions and payment
Sessions are held online through our partner platform, by video, phone or messaging depending on the counsellor.
Costs are shown on the partner platform before you commit. If cost is a concern, ask about reduced-fee options.
Focus areas and approaches
What Vijay works with
Everything Vijay lists, in their own terms.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Addictions
- Trauma and abuse
- Grief
- Depression
- Abandonment
- Attachment issues
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Avoidant personality
- Cancer
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Codependency
- Commitment issues
- Control issues
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Dependent personality
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Emptiness
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Fertility issues
- Hospice and end-of-life counselling
- Immigration issues
- Infidelity
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
- Mood disorders
- Narcissism
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Paranoia
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Post-traumatic stress
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Self-harm
- Sex addiction
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexual dysfunction
- Smoking / vaping cessation
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Traumatic brain injury
- Workplace issues
Approaches Vijay lists
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Online support
Client-Centred Therapy puts the person’s experience at the centre of sessions. The counsellor listens without judgement and follows the client’s priorities, helping them find their own solutions and build confidence in decision making.
Trauma-Focused Therapy focuses on the effects of distressing events and supports practical steps to reduce their impact. It helps people process traumatic memories and learn coping skills to manage flashbacks, hyperarousal or avoidance.
Finding the right approach is part of the work. Jay collaborates with each person to decide which methods fit best, adjusting as goals and needs change. He encourages open conversation about what helps and what does not, so the plan evolves with the client.
Online sessions offer flexibility that suits different lifestyles. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation, phone sessions work when bandwidth is low, live chat supports shorter check-ins, and text messaging helps with regular brief contact. These options make it easier to fit therapy around work, caregiving or health needs while keeping continuity of care with registered or accredited professionals.
Frequently asked
What concerns does he help with?
He supports people with depression, anxiety, stress, addictions, trauma and grief. He also works with related issues such as attachment and abandonment, chronic pain, caregiver stress and domestic violence.
What is his therapeutic style?
He uses a calm, patient and practical style. Sessions are client-focused and aim for small, workable steps that you can try between meetings.
How much experience does he have?
He has seven years of professional experience supporting people with a range of emotional and behavioural concerns.
What credentials and location are listed?
He holds BACP and is based in the United Kingdom.
Which languages are available for sessions?
Sessions are offered in English and Punjabi.
What session formats are used?
He provides video calls, phone sessions, live chat and text-based messaging for online work.
How are costs handled?
Fees vary with location and therapist availability and sessions use a subscription model that can be cancelled at any time.
How do I begin working with him?
Start by selecting the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and then schedule sessions according to the therapist's availability.
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